Did you know that I’m fat? Not only that, but did you know that my being fat makes me ignorant and ugly? In what is becoming an all-too-common thing, an über-conservative has decided that he can totally discount my argument because I happen to be fat.
I decided to take a look at who this douchenugget follows on Twitter. Aside from about 100 porn accounts, he seems to follow athletes, comedians, and a lot of RWNJ pundits/politicians. Among other , he follows Glenn Beck, Darrell Issa, Tucker Carlson, the Duck Dynasty family, Ted Cruz, Jimmy Kimmel, Ron Paul, & Rush Limbaugh. Now, his definition of beauty probably differs from mine, but none of those guys does a thing for me–except make me very, very nauseated. Even the female pundits that he follows don’t really spark my interest. Maybe it’s that I think they’re ugly, but I think it’s more that I just think that these are people who I find morally repugnant. Some of them may meet societal standards for beauty, but I’m not attracted to them because I think that things they have said or done in the past suck. Appearance has never been a thing that has made me think more or less of someone’s political opinions. Most Democratic politicians and pundits aren’t all that hot to me either, but I support them because their policies are more in line with my beliefs.
For some reason, though, people have started doing this whole “If you’re fat, you must be stupid” thing regularly. Or they’ll make other weird appearance-related comments. Earlier this week, a guy said he didn’t have to credit me for a graphic I made that he reposted because I post too many selfies and pictures from McDonald’s on my Instagram account.12 His other argument was that I hadn’t watermarked it and that it wasn’t a good graphic to begin with.3 He said that he regularly did that with accounts that he felt didn’t have much substance. He was equating a person’s images with their worth as a person. Even if I posted hundreds of pictures of myself on there every single day, it still would not diminish my intelligence or my dignity. It would not make me less deserving of respect or of credit, but he didn’t see things that way. I did eventually get him to agree to take the picture down, but the incident was disturbing.
The focus on appearance has just gotten really out of control. I don’t get it. My weight is not somehow connected to my ability to use my brain or to formulate an argument, and I think that people who use this kind of argument know this. I have a feeling the Twitter user is a man who would have no problem supporting Chris Christie, so I have to wonder if the weight=dumb thing is really a thing with him. (For the record, I think Christie is horrible, but that has nothing to do with his waist size.) If it is a thing, is it only a thing for any person who disagrees with him? Or maybe he just dislikes fat women. Who knows? And I have a feeling that the person on Instagram would have no problem voting for a candidate to takes selfies, but they somehow find that kind of behavior abhorrent in the general public. It’s a bit of a double standard to say that we can respect some people who happen to look a certain way or do these things we don’t necessarily like, but that it is okay to denigrate others for those same things.
What I do know is that I don’t appreciate people throwing my weight in my face to avoid debating. I don’t like that people feel that somehow I should be treated like less of a human being because there happens to be more weight on my body. I don’t like that I have battled my own issues with self-esteem and body image because of my weight, and some of the issues that have contributed to it, and that I’m finally learning how to try to treat myself with some level of respect and idiots come along and try to mess up all that progress. Well, I’m not going to let him. Eventually, I will get used to this kind of crap from assholes like him.
I miss the good old days on Twitter when a person could have an actual discussion with someone over politics and other things without having their personal appearance become the focus of the discussion. I guess that having presence on social media accounts now means that I get to deal with the bullies and jerks of the world. I know that there have always been bad folks online, but it seems like their numbers are growing. It really bugs me because the internet used to be my place to get away from this sort of behavior and now it’s becoming so commonplace that I really feel uncomfortable at times.
After the January thing, I haven’t felt like being as outspoken on Twitter and other sites. I haven’t automatically jumped on as many topics as I used to jump on. I worry that when I say something, it will be noticed by people who will start things. I also try not to respond to people that post things that I don’t agree with. Today, I made the mistake of doing that, and that ended up introducing me to this guy. I hate having to be more wary, but c’est la vie, right?