LGBTQ


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In the time since HB2 was signed into law, I’ve had several heterosexual cisgender men tell me how terrified they were by the idea “men” being allowed in women’s locker rooms and restrooms. They’re convinced that transgender women are really cisgender men who are trolling for women to gawk at, grope, assault, or rape in a shower or bathroom stall. Because that’s apparently what they think any person born with male genitalia would do. After all, it’s what Mike Huckabee said that he would have done as a young man.1 So, of course, anyone born with a Y chromosome has to be just as creepy. These dudes are also the ones who think that women are even more terrified than them about the issue.2 I bet that they would freak the fuck out over what happened when I went to the Wellness Center Thursday afternoon. On the way over to the pool, I had been talking to my father about how another batch of transphobic folks were saying all women are terrified over trans women coming into women’s bathrooms and locker rooms. That they had talked about women and girls seeing the genitalia of trans folks in the bathrooms, like we play show and tell in them instead of peeing like normal folks. That we would have to shower with and soap up pre-op  cis and trans women because locker rooms in the real world are just like the ones from the porn that they watched last night. That anyone with a dick will use any excuse to rape any and all women using a restroom, locker room, etc. We were both grumbling over the ignorance as he dropped me off.  I went in, checked in, and headed to the pool staging area.3 When I got in, the teacher of an infant swimming class told me that there were men working in there. I changed behind a curtain and those pesky maintenance men didn’t bother to assault me. Obviously they didn’t realize that transphobic guys were rambling away on Twitter about the dangers of people people who are male or assigned male at birth being in a place where women pee, disrobe, & shower4 using bathrooms as hunting grounds. That’s why they didn’t attack any of the women who varied in body type, race, and age. Because they didn’t get the rape-y memo.  Or maybe because most people—whether they are cisgender or transgender—don’t go into the bathroom to assault other people. It doesn’t even cross their minds. Because it’s fucking creepy and a major indicator that a person needs to seek professional help.  And it shouldn’t be something the rest of us expect either—or suggest that we expect as a way to pass unjust laws. We have to be better than that.  Mike Huckabee, lover of child molestation enablers and father of an animal abuser and a Trump spokesperson, said: “We are now in city after city watching ordinances say that your 7-year-old daughter, if she goes into the restroom cannot be offended and you can’t be offended if she’s greeted there by a 42-year-old man who feels more like a woman than he does a man…Now I wish that someone told me that when I was in high school that I could have felt like a woman when it came time to take showers in PE. I’m pretty sure that I would have found my feminine side and said, ‘Coach, I think I’d rather shower with the girls today.’” ↩I’ve seen more women—cis & trans—hate this bill than men, to be honest. ↩Sometimes a girl gets tired of calling it a locker room. ↩Not necessarily in that order. ↩

Men at Work (In the Women’s Locker Room) 


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So, while I wait for my sunscreen to power-up, I thought I’d say that the only real use for a certain stigmatic trending topic, #TheTriggering, is to fill my 100,000+1 strong blocklist .2 I’ve seen a lot of those assholes pretend like it isn’t an attack on people with PTSD. They claim that the people who talk about needing trigger warnings aren’t “really” PTSD patients. Well, in a way, they’re correct; some who need trigger warnings are not PTSD patients. Many psychiatric ailments have environmental/stress-related triggers. Many “physical” ailments do as well. They claim that people who talk about having PTSD haven’t really been diagnosed; that they just looked it up on the internet and randomly decided that they have it. Randomly claiming to have PTSD is apparently a lot less classy than telling a stranger on Twitter that you know more about their psychological health than they do.3 Maybe some who claim to have PTSD are faking, but I guess the shitlords don’t realize that if a person is faking a mental illness for attention or sympathy or because they genuinely believe they have it, they are still suffering from a mental illness. Guess what that means: They still deserve respect & compassion.  Most of the posts I’ve seen that don’t bash PTSD patients are bashing non-whites, LGBTQ community members, the disabled, and other marginalized groups. They’ll glorify free speech and free enterprise, while wanting to restrict votes4 to people they don’t like and saying that a private business5 cannot ban people who violate its terms of service–they think that’s censorship.6 They deny that their harassment and bullying campaigns are abuse because, to them, abuse has to involve physical violence, but they’ll use Eron Gjoni’s supposed psychological abuse to promote those campaigns. Many profess a belief in Christianity, while not understanding its tenets. Others claim to be atheists—a belief they promote as one for morally superior individuals—while simultaneously engaging in harassment and bullying of others for fun.7 Many are Trump supporters and/or identify with KKK, neo-Nazi, or other alt-right ideologies. #TheTriggering is nothing more than a bigotpalooza. It’s sick and fucking twisted.  And all of their hate is over what? Having to give a heads up that their words might upset others? At worst, that’s an inconvenience. They’re basically assholes complaining that they can’t be assholes to other people.8 There are kindergarten graduates who have a better grasp on how to behave around others than they do.  Photo Credit: Pixabay Seriously. ↩And it’s not even all that useful since I already have most of the assholes using it blocked. ↩I speak from experience on this. I was told that I couldn’t have PTSD from childhood emotional abuse, sexual abuse, and bullying. I was told only military service personnel who were atracked in a war zone could have the disorder. ↩Voting is a form of free speech. ↩Twitter. ↩It isn’t. ↩If you think terrorizing another person is fun, seek professional help. ↩Get some manners, guys. ↩

Huff and Puff



Should Kim Davis, Rowan County Clerk, be in jail for refusing to grant marriage licenses to LGBTQ couples? Was her refusal to do so an example of injustice? Should she be applauded for standing up for what she believes in? Is it hypocritical for her to oppose marriage equality when she has been married four times?

toomuchor: I have repeatedly told her I don’t believe, I haven’t, and I won’t. Why does she insist on continuing everything? I know why. She sees only one outcome- me returning to true belief and revoking my “homosexual feelings”. Even if a “miracle” happens and I loose attraction to girls, I won’t return. Even without including my sexuality, I don’t respect/agree with/desire to be apart of the church. The times where I have been most happy has been the times where I was inactive or doubting. Where my mother sees one outcome, I see one as well- they are just polar opposites. 

How many times




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I don’t normally ask for people to do this, but if you have a Twitter account, can you please report the user wnkpag3. I’m literally receiving these homophobic comments and death threats because of my included tweet. The tweet I made was in response to the GoFundMe page set up for the owners of Memories Pizza after they publicly supported RFRA. This user might not mean what they are saying, including other tweets where they are saying they have a planned date1 to attack LGBTQ individuals, but these are still threats. They’re still illegal. So, please, please, please, report this individual. via Tumblr I was told by one of my friends on Twitter that the account is showing up as suspended for him. It’s not showing up that way for me yet, so it may still need more reports before Twitter takes the threats seriously. Whether they’re taking them that way or not, I think they’re serious. I’m actually worried and it has taken a lot lately to rattle me online. I’ve also reported the person to IC3. @clydescope1973 @lindarutter this is going to change, on june 1 2015 many lgbt is going to feel my pains! — wnkpag3 (@wnkpag3) April 2, 2015 Larger versions of the images shared on Tumblr are below the cut. June 1, 2015 ↩

The Time I Asked For a Favor



It’s not unconditional love if you treat a child like they are broken or fundamentally flawed. If you love your child, you accept your child. If you don’t understand what they are going through, talk to experts, check out support/outreach groups, read about it, Google it, and listen to your child. Make sure they know they can come to you and that you will love them no matter what. Create an environment where they can tell you what they are going through, where your support and love are evident. If there are toxic influences that might harm your kid or have harmed them, including religious groups, it is your job as a parent to leave those groups. If it means cutting out extended family members, ending friendships, losing social status, do it. Your child is more important than all of that. There are a lot of things that are difficult for parents, but loving your child should never be one of them.

“Use the pronoun preferred by the individuals who have acquired the physical characteristics of the opposite sex or present themselves in a way that does not correspond with their sex at birth. If that preference is not expressed, use the pronoun consistent with the way the individuals live publicly.” – AP Stylebook on Transgender Pronoun Usage via Tumblr


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annadelanklo: janersm: annadelanklo: janersm:   When did Putin get a Tumblr account? You know…))) You just made me the best compliment you can ever imagine. Thank you so much! Uh-huh. You realize that psychologists have said his actions resemble those of Hitler & Hussein, right? Being like him or just being an apologist for him is not a compliment. So some psychologists said and you in a blink of an eye belived it? Let’s say I will sue you for that. Tell me how do you think – would you win baising you defence on some psychologists opinion? Nope. Let’s see… Putin had killed people because he thinks russians are suprerior race? Nope. He gives now shelter to refugies… Putin started a World War? Nope. He stoped USA and EU when THEY wanted to start a war in Syria. Putin is histerical, gives speaches in front of lots of people, saying that Russians are powerfull than ever, and USA or EU are regional states? Nope. Obama? Yes! Did ukranian politics justify the slaughter in Odessa? Where people were BURN ALIVE like nazis did! YES! Are there nazis in ukrain governement? YES! Are there forces payed by oligars who salut each other by “Heil Hitler” like nazis did? Yes. So who is looking like Hitler and Co right now? I asked questions and demanded facts. About “russian troops invaiding Urkaine” (OSCE and americain serviced said that they dont’ have any real facts), about “Russia took down Boeing” (Russia published all date, Ukraine is hiding), about why ukranian forced run to Russia in hope for saving their lives if Russia is a “bad guy”. I didn’t recived a single answer. Only dumb posts hopelessly trying to insult me, My President and MY COUNTRY. That means russian people in general. You know how it called when you do something like that? R-A-C-I-S-M So are you a racist? Okay. You’re going to be a fun one, aren’t you? Can I start by saying that your arguments make no sense? There’s no logic in them. I’m not even going to go for the petty remarks I could make about spelling because the arguments you’ve made towards me and others are so lacking that being petty isn’t even necessary. (Oops. That was petty of me, right? I would say I’m sorry, but I’m not. Now, let’s address the various things you’ve have said to me and to others. I’ll do my post first because it’s the first I can get to. I understand that you think I have been somehow brainwashed by the psychologists and media to believe anything bad about Putin that exists. I can assure you that this isn’t true. The comment that I brought up by psychologists compared his expansionist style of what you might think of as “governing”. The College of St. Benedict and St. John’s University’s Unit for the Study of Personality in Politics had the following to say about Mr. Putin: Putin is a highly dominant, narcissistic leader with secondary features of high conscientiousness and substantial introversion. The article featuring that quote also said that his type of leadership could be labeled as “ambitious hostile enforcers”. According to that article and political psychologist Margaret Hermann, Expansionists, like Adolf Hitler or Saddam Hussein, see the world as being “divided into ‘us’ and ‘them,’” based on a belief system in which conflict is viewed as inherent in the international system. This worldview prompts a personal political style characterized by a “wariness of others’ motives” and a directive, controlling interpersonal orientation, resulting in a foreign policy “focused on issues pf security and status,” favoring “low-commitment actions” and espousing “short-term, immediate change in the international arena. Expansionist leaders, according to Hermann, “are not averse to using the ‘enemy’ as a scapegoat,” and their rhetoric often may be “hostile in tone.” Other common characteristics of expansionists include a high degree of power motivation, strong nationalism, an unwavering belief in one’s ability to control events, supreme self-confidence, distrust of others, and a very goal-directed level of task orientation — all of which are evident to varying degrees in Putin’s personality profile. … Putin believes the world is divided between his Russia and the West, often using “the West” or “democracy” as a scapegoat for his problems. Rising through the KGB and Russia’s political elite, he entwined himself with the history of Russia. Typical of narcissistic leaders with exalted self-concept and dreams of glory, he views his destiny and that of the Russian state as one and the same. Putin is Russia; Russia is Putin. Although Putin shows no discernible signs of contemplating genocide or waging conventional war — sensation-seeking adventurousness ranks relatively low in his overall personality profile — he displays a desire for control and deeply entrenched feelings of resentment toward the West. His world is a zero-sum game in which any gains by the West or by domestic opponents are considered moral threats to his power. That’s pretty much the whole article that I was referencing. Do you see how your comments to me might be slightly out of line with what I suggested? I understand that you might think that an American like me would be afraid of a lawsuit from you because we love lawsuits here, but I’m not. You wanna know why? Well, there is this thing called jurisdiction. As the offensive statement originated in Alabama and not Russia, you would be looking at the civil laws of Alabama and the US. What I said can’t be construed as defamatory in any way according to the law. Basically, if you filed a lawsuit, a judge would laugh you out of court. Now, if you filed it in Russia, I could ask for the US Embassy there to appoint me counsel in absentia or I could appeal to have it moved to an international court. As my comment had to do with the free press that we have in America, you would probably still lose. Basically, empty threats are empty threats. On the other hand, I have a […]

In Other Words: Fuck Off You Putin Loving Weirdo


“ Funny how you (a friend of Jennifer) friended me today. Funny how you came across a post only available to friends of mine on my personal Facebook profile on the day Jennifer needed someone to back her up. Funny how you accuse me of ganging up on her, when I was responding to her posts that she made on my page, but you don’t see yourself as being guilty of the same thing. Now, how did I establish that marriage equality & adoption of LGBTQ couples is a civil right? From the UN. http://www.un.org/en/documents/udhr/#atop My issue with the gender role concept has to do with the reality that we are starting to realize that the concept of gender is just a social construct. I addressed the problems with Jennifer’s claims and with the data she used to back up those claims. Opinions when used as she did (in a false claim) can be wrong. http://www.auburn.edu/academic/education/reading_genie/Fact-opinion.html ” – When I found this post via Tumblr Also, it’s funny how almost 24-hours have passed & my comment still isn’t up.

“Funny how you (a friend of Jennifer) friended me today. ...