intolerance


Having grown up in Alabama, I understand that bigots will go to extraordinary lengths to justify their rage and their hate. When I have supported groups like Black Lives Matter, I have been accused of only having sex with black men. When I supported marriage equality, I was labeled a lesbian. So I guess that it makes sense that my support of rights for transgender/non-binary people means that, drumroll please, I am a man. No, you didn’t read that wrong. In the middle of the night last night, a stranger accused me of having male privilege. I cackled as I read it. Who knew that I’m a dude?! I would have expected my parents or my gynecologists over the years to have told me if I was a dude. I’m especially disappointed that the gynecologist who performed the hysteroscopy/uterine biopsy and D&C didn’t say, “Uh. This procedure can’t be performed on you.” My family and doctors didn’t call me a dude because… I’m not one. Whether you subscribe to trans-exclusionary feminism’s1 reductive view of gender as being based on body parts or the inclusive view I subscribe to that admits gender & sex are not one in the same, this conclusion that I have male privilege makes no sense. I don’t have the body parts of a dude. I don’t feel I am a dude. Therefore: A dude I am not. In case you can’t speak Yoda, let’s try the standard English: I’m not a dude/man/guy/boy/male. I doubt I can put it any more clearly than that, but I’m sure that that won’t satisfy some of these individuals. Calling me a guy because I disagree with what you feel a woman should believe is as hysterical as it is sad. But it’s not the first time that a TERF has gone this route. I would bet that if any woman spends any length of time debating them or disagreeing with them that TERFs would start questioning their biological sex. Or if they don’t question the sex of the person, they start saying that she is somehow incapable of thinking for herself and that men must have brainwashed her. The internalized misogyny is strong with TERFs. How are they “liberating” women2 by denigrating women that don’t agree with them and suggesting that they are somehow unable to use their cognitive processes to come to their own opinions? It’s almost like their own version of a savior complex. They feel the need to “rescue” the poor little women who disagree with them from making informed decisions about their own lives and making conclusions about the things that they believe based on their own experiences. That’s not liberation. That’s oppression. You can’t replace one form of oppressive system with another. That just doesn’t work. Or, more correctly, it doesn’t actually liberate anyone. Also, misrepresenting what people say so that you can perpetuate hatred and encourage a pile-on is not the action of those intent on liberating. The original angst fest by this “liberation” force began after I defended a male friend on Twitter after a female follower of mine said something about him being harmful because he uses the term TERF to describe people who are, well, TERFs. This was the tweet that was being responded to: It’s becoming blatantly obvious where the adage “separate the artist from the art” came from, and we probably should stop using it. — Soyter Krampus 🔑 (@petercoffin) November 5, 2017 I cannot share the text of the tweet that I responded to as the user was reported3 to Twitter several tweets later for threatening to dox multiple individuals. But it is the threat to dox that alarmed me so much about this particular group of TERFs. I tried pointing out what was going on to Helen, which led to the response4 by Juniper that I have male privilege. Helen and other TERFs had insisted that their ilk couldn’t be behind the doxing threats or the ableism, racism, and other vitriol that I had seen while conversing with them. When Juniper came along, she decided that my outrage was due to my either having a penis or a feeling that I should have one. I’m really not sure how a person who has never been a man and who never wanted to be a man somehow has male privilege, so I asked. I think one of the reasons is because you stated that you would fight to get a man who posts picture after picture of his come covered cock into safe spaces for women and girls because he says the magic words ‘I am a woman’. — helen staniland (@helenstaniland) December 2, 2017 The tweets that Helen was referencing were from a different Twitter user who had offended her sensibilities by posting, on her own timeline, nude pictures and video. Helen encouraged a mob of individuals to report Meisha, even though Meisha’s posts do not violate the Twitter rules. She had already given me a hard time for pointing out to another individual that reporting Meisha would only lead to that person being punished by Twitter. No. women don’t post pictures of their come covered flaccid cock. What mental gymnastics do you have to go through to tell yourself he’s a woman? Would you fight for him to be in spaces with women and girls? — helen staniland (@helenstaniland) December 1, 2017 When Helen had discovered the tweet she dislikes so, she had made sure that all of her followers could join in on her hate. Anyone who didn’t had to be shamed. I just didn’t want to play that game with her, so she went full-on with the faux outrage against me and even challenged my gender and biological sex because I supported a person who she didn’t like & who she was simply using to gain prominence amongst her TERFy peers.5 I was familiar with her technique because of the past disagreements with her,6 so I told her to leave me alone. Repeatedly. She thought […]

I’m A Guy?


And now the post-Opening Ceremonies of the 2016 Summer Olympics edition of 2016 Reasons–I actually did stop the previous post to get ready to watch the Opening Ceremonies. At this point, you know the drill about how I’m doing this to show all of the reasons to oppose Donald Trump for President of the United States and just about any other position he could ever want. He deserves nothing but shame for these things. 159. Calls undocumented people “illegals” and American-born children of undocumented people “anchor babies”, thus diminishing their humanity and allowing people to feel better about mistreating them. He also claims that no one was talking about immigration by undocumented people before his campaign, which is completely false. He’s called protesters “thugs” and accused them of being here illegally. When referring to himself by his full name, such a douche-tastic thing to do, he said he will strengthen the military and borders and get rid of “illegals”. He’s linked undocumented immigrants and and Syrians. He’s questioned the vaccination status of “illegals”, while defending white people who are anti-vaccination–a blatant for of racism and hypocrisy that has plagued the vaccine movement since its early days. His description of American-born children of immigrants as “anchor babies” is cruel and encourages racism against children of immigrants–something that is odd considering his mother is an immigrant and four of his five children have immigrant mothers. The statement was, of course, applauded by Fox and Friends. He has also called Ted Cruz an “anchor baby in Canada”. He claimed that “many” scholars say that these individuals aren’t covered by the 14th Amendment and vowed to continue calling people by the term. There is no question why he wants to use these slurs to talk about immigrants. He wants people to view them as enemies of the country; he wants them to beg the country to get rid of them. Despicable. 160. Claimed undocumented immigrants and women being raped were by criminals coming to the country “somebody’s doing the raping”. Donald Trump misread a Fusion article about migrant women being raped. He was called out on this online and by Don Lemon on CNN. He told Lemon: “Well if you look at the statistics of people coming, you look at the statistics on rape, on crime, on everything coming in illegally into this country it’s mind-boggling! If you go to Fusion, you will see a story: About 80% of the women coming in, you know who owns Fusion? Univision! Go to Fusion and pick up the stories on rape. It’s unbelievable when you look at what’s going on. So all I’m doing is telling the truth.” When Lemon tried correcting him, he responded with, “Well, somebody’s doing the raping, Don! I mean somebody’s doing it! Who’s doing the raping? Who’s doing the raping?” Completely. Out. Of. Touch. 161. Exploited death of Kate Steinle. Brad Steinle, Kate’s brother, accused Trump of sensationalizing his sister’s murder when Trump’s campaign began. Trump used Steinle as an example of why we shouldn’t allow undocumented immigrants to stay in the United States; he didn’t reach out to the family beforehand and the family was upset about it. 162. Calls his followers the Silent Majority. It’s a bit odd since they aren’t silent and who wants to co-opt things from Richard Nixon? 163. Wants to get rid of gun-free zones. In January, Trump declared that he would get rid of gun-free zones at schools & military bases on his first day if elected. He continued to speak in favor of ending gun-free zones in May, though many of his properties don’t allow guns on them. He also claimed in May that he thought he’d get rid of gun-free zones in schools “in some cases”, with only trained teachers and resource officers carrying them. So he’s opposed to them, if they don’t impact him personally and if he’s not asked to clarify how he really feels about them. Getting rid of gun free zones would not increase the safety of those places, and encouraging more guns could actually lead to an increase in violence. 164. “If you can’t get rich dealing with politicians, there’s something wrong with you.” If you’ve ever wondered if Donald Trump has engaged in corruption, there’s your answer. 165. Sees himself as a uniter. Unless Trump means that he’s united Republicans and Democrats against him, then he’s definitely not a “uniter” of anyone. But he’s claimed it multiple times, like in 2015, when he said, “I think that I would be a great uniter. I think that I would have great diplomatic skills. I think that I would be able to get along with people very well. I’ve had a great success in my life. I think the world would unite if I were the leader of the United States.” Yeah, no. 166. Opposes treating people with respect. At the Republican National Convention, he said, “We cannot afford to be so respectful anymore.” At Liberty University in January 2016, he said, “We’re going to protect Christianity, and I can say that. I don’t have to be respectful.” In 2015, he told Jake Tapper, “You can be respectful if you want, but are you trying to say we don’t have a problem?…Most Muslims, like most everything, I mean, these are fabulous people…But we certainly do have a problem, I mean, you have a problem throughout the world…It wasn’t people from Sweden that blew up the World Trade Center.” He told David Brody of The Brody File, “They’re tired of respectful stuff. I mean I could have said, ‘Oh absolutely not Bill, there’s no Muslim problem, everything is wonderful, just forget about the World Trade Center.’ But you have to speak the truth. We’re so respectful that this country is falling apart.” 167. Claims Clinton was worst Secretary of State ever. In 2015, he said Clinton “is easily the worst Secretary of State in the history of the country. She’s going to be beaten and I’m the one to […]

2016 Reasons to Oppose Trump: Reasons #159-171