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When You Try Your Best, But You Don’t Succeed 

On Monday afternoon, Nana called. She was in pain & couldn’t get to the bathroom or the kitchen by herself. She’d talked to the other relative.1 That relative gave her the equivalent of a verbal shrug.2 So Nana called mom. 

My mom dropped everything & went to spend that night, last night, and tonight with Nana.3 And mom took Nana to the doctor. They’ve done tests to find out if Nana has rhabdomyolysis and we’ll find out either way tomorrow.4 It is painful and causes weakness & fatigue. Rhabdomyolysis is a serious and potentially fatal condition. Keep in mind that it’s the doctor who thinks it’s rhabdomyolysis. 

Not to worry, the relative thought that the pain was all just a ruse to get attention.56

I don’t think she’s faking. If she’s got rhabdomyolysis, I know that would increase her pain level and decrease her ability to get around. It would also alter her mental status.7 Nana is at a higher risk of it being rhabdomyolysis because mom has had it.8

If she doesn’t have it, she could still be in pain or in a fatigued/weakened state for physical reasons. She could also simply feel that way because she’s depressed.9 And10 if it’s because of psychological reasons, we should still be paying attention to her. 

I hope she gets better soon. She may frustrate me sometimes, but she’s one of the most important people in the world to me11 & I’m not okay with her being so sick. I know she’s not going to be as healthy as she once was, but I want her to be healthy enough to not be miserable or suffering every moment of the day. 


  1. You know who you are. 

  2. There are so many things I could say about this person right now, but I won’t. 

  3. Because mom doesn’t suck. 

  4. The National Institute of Health described ‘rhabdomyolysis‘ as: the breakdown of muscle tissue that leads to the release of muscle fiber contents into the blood. These substances are harmful to the kidney and often cause kidney damage. 

  5. A sample of two people exists. One person suck. The other doesn’t. If we’ve already identified the individual who doesn’t suck, and we have, then what person are we left with? 

  6. You know what? If Nana was just attention-seeking, then give her attention. She is almost eighty-three-years-old. She’s a widow. She’s had depression and mental health issues for decades. She has had so many friends and family members die over the span of her life. She loves you. You can give up a day or two to spend with her. If she wants me to come over to help her, I’ll do it. You can spend a night there. Or an afternoon. Or maybe just call her & listen. Let her talk. Let her complain. Let her have this. 

  7. You said you thought she was drugged, it could be that her muscles breaking down are causing her brain to be poisoned. 

  8. That means you could also be at a higher risk, too. If Nana has it, you need to talk to your doctor about your risk. You may hate me, but I don’t want you to end up with a preventable illness. 

  9. You know why this time of year is hard on her. 

  10. like with the part on attention-seeking 

  11. You were one of them once, too. 

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Janet Morris

I'm from Huntsville, Alabama. I've got as many college credits as a doctorate candidate, and the GPA of some of them, too. I have a boss by the name of Amy Pond. She's a dachshund. My parents both grew up in Alabama.

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