Daily Archives: February 12, 2012

socialsaltysailors: killerhair: Human: Ingredients In Decreasing Order of Abundance.. #step 1: collect all ingredients  #step 2: perform alchemy  #step 3: lose arm and leg (Source: http://www.killerhair.tumblr.com)

vivamus-mea-lesbia: Because no one who has ever been a victim would ever want to give power to the abuser and actively inform victims everywhere that the abuse is their own damn fault. There is no excuse for domestic violence. Be it a man on a woman, a woman on a man, man on a man, or a woman on a woman—or any non cisgendered equivalents. People who support Chris Brown because he has musical talent, well, that’s your decision. But do not for one moment EVER promote domestic abuse as something that is acceptable, that is a “mistake”, that it is the victim’s fault, that is something that should be easily forgiven. Because the moment you do that is the moment you validate every abuser’s excuses and you demean every victim. I am disgusted with my fellow human beings beyond all belief that they would decide that a man’s musical ability and record sales outweigh the content of his character, that they are sufficient to forgive a man for beating his partner. Words cannot express how disgusted I feel, but this certainly made a start to it.

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Some of the Chris Brown fans are talking about how “if he was your friend/family member, you would have forgiven him by now” and stuff like that.  While that *might* be true for some people, it isn’t for me. My dad hit my mom once.  Once.  One time over 25 years ago.  I didn’t witness it and it didn’t happen to me, but his temper still scares me.  His temper still scares her.  And he still hasn’t forgiven himself for it. My paternal grandfather didn’t hit me.  He did tell me how horrible of a person I was.  He told me that I didn’t have morals.  He did this when I was a child.  I’m still not over it.  I don’t know that I ever will be.  And he has been dead for almost 16 years now. I was bullied in elementary and middle school.  The words that were thrown at me still reverberate in my head sometimes.  I haven’t been bullied by classmates in about 17 years.  It still hurts. Abuse, no matter what type and no matter who does it, hurts the person being abused.  Three or four years doesn’t make it go away.  It doesn’t allow people to just move on.   Abuse is like a burn that will never heal.  It hurts every day. So I choose to not forgive Chris Brown because he hurt Rihanna.  I choose not to buy his music anymore.  I choose to speak out against him. And that is my right. That doesn’t make me a loser or ugly or anything like that.  It makes me a person who is appalled by the amount of adoration given to someone who hurt someone that he supposedly loved.

Domestic Violence

subwaywalls: Reading some articles about Chris Brown, and how him appearing at the Grammys and everyone thinking he’s a fucking prince is out of order, and I CANNOT get my head around some of these comments… why should Rihanna be portrayed as the victim, when she refuses to be seen that way? Or maybe all of you damn ignorant people would want to be forgiven if YOU was in chris’s shoes. you may say you would never do such a thing, but so did chris and look what he did. Hypocrites!  even chris brown is amazing…..its honestly rihannas fault for being so stupid Do people honestly believe the things they say? Really? Are they aware of what they’re typing… have any control over their brains? No? Didn’t think so. This is fucking sick and twisted.

Do people honestly believe this?

stfuhypocrisy: by Sasha PasulkaI’m sick and tired of people acting like it’s no big deal that Chris Brown will be performing at the Grammys.I’m frustrated that the mainstream media is covering this story like it’s any comeback story, like an exiled prince’s return to a former glory, like this is another political timeline — as though some rich and powerful old white men in the music business have not just issued an enormous ‘f**k you’ to every woman who has been, is or will be on the receiving end of domestic violence.We should be furious.Why aren’t we?A Long, Long Time Ago, or Three Years Ago, But Who’s Counting?For those of you who are currently listening to ‘Look at Me Now’ and wondering what the big deal is, a quick recap: The night before the Grammys in 2009, Chris Brown got angry at his girlfriend, Rihanna, and he took it out on her face. She went to the hospital and then to the LAPD, where this photo was taken and promptly leaked to TMZ. (The LAPD issued a stern statement on the leak, threatening penalties “up to and including termination”. TMZ reportedly paid $62,500 for the photo.)Both Rihanna and Brown had been scheduled to perform at the Grammys the following evening. Neither did.Instead, Chris Brown turned himself into the LAPD at 7 pm, was booked on suspicion of criminal threats and was released on $50,000 bail.Then the Internet exploded.I was a full-time entertainment writer at the time, so I had a front-row seat to the action. This is what I expected: I expected a string of celebrities to comment on how horrific this situation was, how sad and angry they were for Rihanna, how domestic violence is unacceptable in any context, how as a nation we need to condemn this and condemn it loudly.Instead, Hollywood went silent and, when they did speak, they teetered on the brink of defending Chris Brown. Carrie Underwood: “I don’t think anybody actually knows what happened. I have no advice.”Lindsay Lohan: “I have no comment on that. That’s not my relationship. I think they’re both great people.”Nia Long: “I know both of them well. They’re young, and all we can do is pray for them at this point.”Mary J. Blige: “They’re both young and beautiful people, and that’s it.” Jay-Z, one of Rihanna’s mentors, spoke up: “You have to have compassion for others. Just imagine it being your sister or mom and then think about how we should talk about that. I just think we should all support her.”In a sane world, Jay-Z’s statement would sound insane. Why would he have to remind his fans to support Rihanna after what happened is that she got hit in the face?Jay-Z issued that statement because the Internet was, in early February 2009, engaged in a very serious conversation about whether or not all of this was Rihanna’s fault. In fact, large segments of the Internet had devoted themselves to making Rihanna the scapegoat for any woman who ever had the gall to do something worth getting hit, and then the cloying self-esteem to go to the cops about it. Bloggers and their commentators flocked to Chris Brown’s defense in droves. It was a full-blown tearing-down of female self-worth, an assault on any progress women have made in this country in the past 200 years, and the mainstream media ignored it.It horrified me. It still does.Later in February, a photo of Brown riding a jet ski in Miami hit the Internet, and singer Usher was caught on video commenting on it: “I’m a little disappointed in this photo,” Usher says in the video. “After the other photo [of Rihanna’s bruised face]? C’mon, Chris. Have a little bit of remorse, man. The man’s on jet skis? Like, just relaxing in Miami?”The backlash was so severe that Usher was later forced to publicly apologize.“I apologize on behalf of myself and my friends if anyone was offended,” he said. “The intentions were not to pass judgment and we meant no harm. I respect and wish the best for all parties involved.”The message we sent to young women was unmistakable: You are powerless. You are worthless. You will be a victim, and that will be okay with us.The Fall-out, and the Lack ThereofIn August 2009, Brown was sentenced to five years probation and 180 hours of community service after pleading guilty to felony assault.In December 2009, he released his third studio album. It sold over 100,000 copies in its first week and debuted at #7 on the Billboard charts.On June 8, 2010, Brown was forced to cancel his tour dates in the UK when the British Home Office refused to grant him a work visa on the grounds of “being guilty of a serious criminal offence”. Less than three weeks later, he performed ‘Man in the Mirror’ at the BET Awards’ tribute to Michael Jackson.His fourth studio album, released in March of last year, debuted at #1.In December 2011, Billboard crowned him their artist of the year.And, this week, Grammy producers confirmed that Chris Brown will be performing on Sunday’s show. “We’re glad to have him back,” said executive producer Ken Ehrlich. “I think people deserve a second chance, you know. If you’ll note, he has not been on the Grammys for the past few years and it may have taken us a while to kind of get over the fact that we were the victim of what happened.” Read that quote again. Think hard about what is being said. Here is what this quote says to any woman who’s ever been abused:By blacklisting Chris Brown from the Grammys for a “few” years (actually, a grand total of TWO Grammy Awards), the Grammys have gone above and beyond expectations for the social exile of an adult man who hit his girlfriend so hard she went to the hospital, and honestly it was really, really hard for them to show even that much support for victims of domestic violence worldwide.It was rather thoughtless of Rihanna to go and get herself hit in the face by […]